The Oneness of Being

Shared Emotional Life

Love is the offering of Oneness, the maintenance of Oneness and the work of creating Oneness.

True love is an epic romance with Oneness, with love and with life itself.

Romance is essentially the dream of Oneness and when pursued with all our heart, mind and soul it becomes the seed feeling that has the potential to grow into the deepest and most pure love.

Oneness is the ultimate goal of Love.

 Romance was probably invented by God to teach us that we are capable of loving our fellow human beings very deeply and with the totality of our soul.

One of the most basic principles of social life and intimate relationships is the idea of a shared emotional life that springs forth from our relative state of oneness or separation we experience with each other.

The most fundamental principle on which The Marriage of Souls is based on is the spiritual principle that all is one, that there is continuity, a place where all things are magically interconnected.

Every founder of every religion has clearly stated that the universe is one whole, integrated, vast interactive system and of course this is what Quantum physics itself has brought to light.

In The Marriage of Souls this field of union upon which our beings meet is called “The Oneness of Being.”

It is both a space and an experience that happens when we touch the quantum level of our selves that are secretly at one with each other.

When emotional worlds touch perfectly and we merge into this oneness we experience the entrainment of The Oneness of Being that generates the most beautiful and powerful feelings we will ever feel in our lives on earth.  

To be One on a soul level with another there is no separation between your own inner being and the being of the other. 

There are indiscernible threads that connect all beings together and we have internal systems that give us the means to detect the ‘flux’ of these connections.

Because the separative powers of our minds and personalities hold so much power to create separation between our beings these ‘fluxes’ or movements toward and away from oneness can be quite strong.

And these movements have much to do with our deepest feelings and generate much of our emotional content.

When we separate from our own heart and from the hearts of others our minds ponder in darkness and these mind trips rip our emotional centers asunder.  

From separation problems arise.

 

Egocentrism is essentially subjectivist philosophy in full form.

The subjectivist assumption locks people into their own private world creating a race of fundamentally isolated individuals:

1: who do not affect each other?
2: who cannot hurt each other or cause suffering in the other
3: who do not have to pay attention to the consequence of their actions on others.
4: who have no direct access into the subjectivity of others
5: human action is seen primarily as manipulative and self-serving
6: can never be one 

With these assumptions about our individualities we only have ourselves to count on.

Others by their very nature are perceived as “alien” and thus they take back seat, secondary roles to the primary concern we have for our self, that self that is directed by the mind driven and controlled by the self-conscious separate ego which is concerned primarily with its sense of I.

The “evils” of individualism (separatism) are deeply rooted in philosophic thought as well as in modern psychology and science and The Oneness of Being is not known to exist at all.

In this view intimacy is only the closeness experienced as two separate subjectivities approach each other but there is really no chance for actual merger.

Love is a difficult concept for subjectivist thinkers for it speaks about the state that moves away from isolation and individualism.  

Separative subjective mentalities reach into every corner of modern life and have ridden rough shod over therapy and communication theory during this past century.

It is one of the primary reasons why therapy is so ineffective and frustrating because in essence “the in-between space” is not recognized or respected.

In the in-between “we” exist, there is no “just I.” Subjectivists would say there are just two “individualities” but no ‘real’ we.

This chapter conceptualizes a class of emotions that arise as elements within relational scenarios; feelings and emotions that gain their intelligence and meaning from patterns of interchange “between” beings.

Thus it is possible to view emotions like anger and depression not strictly as personal events but as constituents of “relational dances.”

Here we are taking off the arbitrary limits imposed by egocentric subjectivist frameworks and opening up a new framework for understanding our feelings and emotions in terms of their cause, which is found in the sharing, conflict and movement between inner realities that do touch and meet each other on a field of interaction.

On this field of being there are no hard edges that define where one being begins and another ends. Love knows of this but the mind is reluctant to accept that which might threaten its supreme position as a separate entity. 

The ‘Oneness of Being’ is the ego-less space, that space where the differences and separation disappear.

That space where the other becomes our self.

That space where one gives love to another and we feel that love; experience it in the nuclear center of our being. 

The ego is like a bubble with a hard edge and the sense of separation that creates a surface tension between ones inner and outer world.

The normal psychoanalytic definition that regards the ego as that part of the personality that is governed by reason, experiences the external world through the senses, censoring the Id and answerable to the Superego only gives us part of the story.

Cutting deeply into the quantum field of union (the universe of being) is the ego’s concepts, thoughts or images of individual separateness from others and the universe it lives in.  

The normal barrier of separation that divides one being from another is represented by the word ego.

Ego is the sense of “I” sitting inside the minds own idea of who and what it thinks it is.

It’s kind of a shell that defines the barrier between our self concept or “I” and our concept of “others.”

In reality it is not our individuality per say but a measure of our “separateness” from others.

Ospensky wrote that the first intellectual judgment mankind made in its infancy was to judge that what is “out there” is different and apart from what is “in here.”

The beginning of the “I” Vs “we” conflict.

The lines of separation only grew from there.

It was a natural development of the mind but it occurred at the expense of the heart that is and always was connected to the whole.  

The idea of individuality and individual uniqueness is not actually in conflict with unitive consciousness but what is in conflict is the ‘idea’ itself that the ego creates about being a separate entity, a separate identity which is just an illusion brought on by our identification with a body.

In this illusion the ego is always thinking it is being acted upon by external stimulation or influences and does not see that it is impossible in reality to separate the self from the total environment it lives in.

Whilst part of what we perceive comes through our senses from the object before us, another part
 (and it may be the large part) always comes out of our own mind.

William James - The Principles of Psychology Physics has long understood that what is observed cannot be separated from the observer and Einstein proved for all time that knowledge of velocity and all motion in space is relative to the observer.

The universe is not fixed and constant and acting on us.

We are acting on it as it acts on us and in the social sphere this interaction is dynamic and intense.  

In human relationships the context of the inner reality of one being gets transmitted into the inner reality of other beings via a mechanism called ‘emotional transmission.’

Emotions are normally seen as communications between one part of the self and another, ‘emotional transmissions’ are between one person and another.

Emotions are essential hormonal communications from one part of the internal human biological system to another and this is a very physical and measurable occurrence.

We feel our own emotions deeply and strongly but what we do not easily acknowledge is that the deeper and more intimately our worlds overlap the greater will be the force of a ‘shared emotional life.’

In essence, the more attuned we are to each other, the more intimate, the more one, the deeper the synchrony, the more similar our moods become.

Just like grandfather clocks swing together on the wall, we also go into entrainment with each other emotionally.

Though many would love to preserve the absolute integrity of our separate individuality quantum physics calls into question the very concept of ‘other.’

Our inner universes overlap whether we like it or not.  

Though at times we do need to exert a great deal of force to not swing with others, to not get caught into others darkness and depressions, even the most enlightened soul will feel the pressures of those who intimately surround him or her.

Our feelings, as opposed to emotions, are representations of our beings presence and that presence’s interaction with others.

Our emotions, on the other hand, are representations of what the mind “feels” about its situation and circumstance. (See HeartHealth for a full discussion on the distinction between emotions and feelings)

In Oneness, the pure heart appears.

At first a delicate space formed through bonds of trust.

Needing that trust of unbreakable bonds, fidelity to the union, no clouds of separation mar the landscape.

In pure love, nothing else will do. 

It is really a question of feedback and information transfer.

Systems theory has shown how one part of a system will affect all other parts of the system and intimate and family relationships represent the most powerful systems we participate in.

Emotional reactions are an important aspect of awareness; they provide us “feedback” or information about how one part of a system is working and how those “other” parts are affecting us.

Emotional reactions are responses to ‘something’ and that something is what’s important yet difficult to see clearly.

That something has very much to do with the ‘quality’ of the space that we are participating in.

System theory defines the individual in terms of the system with the system being paramount; the individual cannot be seen or defined as an entity totally separate from the system.

Unfortunately people often drown inside the intensity of their emotions (because emotions as compared to feelings bring in past content and context which distorts the meaning of what is happening in the present) and loose clarity to what triggered the reaction in the first place.

What is not seen is that we have lost touch with love and oneness.

The heart dances to the beat of “we” where as the mind is concerned obsessively with “I.”

The obsession with the supremacy of the ego “I” casts its long shadow even over family systems theory which still diagnoses individual mental conditions over diagnosis of overall family pathology.

When the overall system is sick individual health will not exist and efforts to heal the individual will not affect much movement if the overall system is not equally addressed.  

In practical reality we have much control over, and can evolve our ‘responses’ to our emotional reactions, but being human means that we have tendencies to emotional reactions that run down to the very core of our beings.

We have built in feeling reactions to the quality of the system and these reactions are healthy and wise.

Daniel Goleman wrote in Emotional Intelligence that long term therapy (or conscious spiritual work) can lead to two kinds of changes:

“Their emotional reactions to triggering events became less distressing, even calm or bemused, and their overall responses became more effective in getting what they truly wanted from the relationship.

What did not change, however, was their underlying wish or fear, and the initial twinge of feeling.”

Just as we have a nervous system that tells us to take our hands off a hot stove, we have hearts that feel and have deep responses as to the quality of the environment in which we live.

When we move away from our heart and feeling center we lose touch with this built in and highly sensitive feeling feedback system, and move into territories that are incredibly confusing to our minds and souls.  

This entire discussion has implications for therapy.

We can conclude that one of the basic reasons why therapy fails so often is that the quality of the therapeutic environment is degraded seriously through the separation therapists maintain from their clients.

Therapists do not normally want to look `directly´ into the intimacy of the system they are entering with their clients.

Professional ethics makes it difficult to see that they need to dance on intimate levels of being “with” their clients and that their willingness and ability to be vulnerable on a heart level makes all the difference in the world.

From the lessons learned in this series we would conclude that what happens between therapist and client, meaning the quality and depth of the being to being contact has much to say about what results will be achieved.

The old strategic assumption which says that a therapist may select his/her words carefully, meaning inserting them manipulatively into therapeutic dialogues at the “proper” moment speaks of a separate space that might make money but does little to heal the heart of souls who are hurt and lost in confusion.

The establishment of real communication and communion between beings (which is healing and therapeutic) is dependent on authentic models of communication.

On a practical level this kind of communication is realized when we pay attention to the emotions and feelings that arise in-between us, emotions that come from the shared space of beingness.  

The Marriage of Souls is about the practice of pure meditation “between” beings. It is the externalization of meditation.

Instead of being the inner practice of dissolving the separation between our mind and pure being it is the spiritual practice of dissolving the separate mind that gets in the way of the pure communion between beings.

Other people’s reactions to our behavior and attitudes alert us to our effect on them.

The real idea of cybernetics and system’s theory is that emotional reactions and feedback can alert us to when we or our partners begin to ‘head off course,’ drifting away from the integrity of true being to being contact and the light of shared love.

They alert us to conflicts in the making and what creates them.

The feedback from our shared emotional life becomes, in a way, the lifeblood of our relationships – exchanging information about how well we are doing in relationship to each other. 

How to dissolve the differences?

How to end the separation?

That is all there is to learn.

Love is basically the feeling of being at one with, of belonging and even of longing.

Freud’s Thantos or death instinct basically can be seen as the ego’s longing for a return to the state of union, the drive to annihilate itself back into an amalgamation with something other than itself.

Romance is basically that feeling and also our sexual orgasms offer brief glimpses of this space of dissolution.

What is ultimately so intolerable to our beings is the sense of separation, the coldness of being a being living apart and distant from significant people in our lives.

Though it is equally painful and intolerable to be separate from our own love light, from our own heart center of feelings, it is crucial to understand that many of our problems and conflicts and suffering have their roots in misunderstanding and separations and hurts that come from the social sphere of human interaction.  

The greatest reality of modern life is separation and even in the family we have a machine that creates separation among family members.

Television has created separation between beings that live in the same house together.

It deadens both the heart and mind with overuse, and most importantly, instead of relating to each other, people sit together watching television.

Instead of paying attention to each other and spending the time to work out conflicts, share love, communicate and touch each other, consciousness flows out into a deeply disturbing reality distorting machine.

Though highly addictive, TV is surely enjoyable but soul relationships take a great deal of investment of energy.

Deep heart to heart relationships cannot be taken for granted.

When it gets to the point that we would rather watch TV then make love we should know that something is not quite right.  

We need tremendous skill and love to deal with the opening heart and all those “temporary” movements back into separation.

Even the most romantic and devoted lovers eventually feel these movements.

The conquest of love over ego, oneness over separation depends on how we deal with such movements, how we deal with conflict and pain.

Open heartfelt communication is the best insurance policy, the only guarantee of returning and securing the love of the heart.

There are constant movements inside of each and every one of us, movements to and away from love and oneness, and movements into and out of our hearts mirror these fluctuations.

Whenever we spend life together in deep partnership there is a special dance we do between states of oneness and separation and our feeling center will register such changes.

It follows that any changes in the inner mood state of one partner will reflect directly back into the emotional life of the other. 

In love and Oneness we have that total trust.

Less leads to degrees of separation. 

In The Marriage of Souls we consciously recognize the existence of this shared emotional life that we see actually as a kind of subterranean economy of the heart.

Our beings have the capacity to detect whether our encounters with others are going well or not.

Whether they are toxic or nourishing, threatening to our well being or life serving experiences that will enrich our lives.

The heart center of feeling is our portal to the deeper intelligence of the heart which simply knows what is best for us, knows what will make us feel more secure or not.  

Tenderness is always appreciated between beings that are touching each other with their souls.

Although the heart has its strong courageous and persistent willful side our beings are very tender and it is easy to hurt this tenderness.

It is easy to wound the vulnerability of our beings.

The childlike, open, trusting and living being that feels at one with itself and its environment will feel hurt if knifes of any kind cleaves into this ‘wonderment.’

That such knifes exist is reality.

The ego itself carries its own knife of selfishness and separation.

Hurt can be experienced many different ways and yet a host of new age philosophies mirror an interesting unconscious phenomenon in human behavior, the tendency to judge and try to diminish the hurt beings feel.

Some acute sociologists who have studied the reactions to extreme human behavior have seen this phenomenon.

In trial cases of serial killers often the victims hurt is diminished as a coping device in trying to understand or lend some compassion to the killer.

Willard Graylin, a distinguished American psychiatrist wrote of a process whereby the victims, not the killers are diminished and denied their humanity in order to put killers who are on trial in the best possible light.

Elliot Leyton, President of the Canadian Sociology and Anthropology Association said that a society that does not understand the hurt of people provides fertile ground for the sowing of more hurt.

He said that societies like our own, that do not understand truly the hurt of the innocent, the tragedies and unholiness of people’s acts is guilty of much more than “misplaced tenderness.”

Uncompassionate attitudes (intellectual systems of rationalization) can actually be charged with encouraging the repetition of much of the hurt and violence in society.

We have seen this trend recently in modern psychology where a few psychologists have tried to diminish and declassify child sexual abuse into terms that reduces our perception of the suffering of its victims.

Some psychologists have gone as far as to suggest the name ‘child sexual abuse’ be changed to ‘adult-child or adult-adolescent sexuality,’ terms that are more value neutral.

The inability to understand the hurt beings experience is a direct result of the separate subjective ego that cuts itself off even from its own heart that feels.  

Internal feeling states register and mark our internal movements of consciousness and these movements relationship to other beings with whom we are interacting with.

These other beings also have feeling states and when we interact with each other there is a mixing of the ‘emotional juices.’

This mixing combines our own internal dynamic with the internal dynamics of others.

These emotional exchanges between people often occur on barely conscious levels, they happen like currents of hot and cold air mixing high in the stratosphere; and the temperature changes (moods) can be rapid or very gradual.

Even in the least intimate situations we see this happen like in how a salesperson says thank you, can leave us feeling warmed and appreciated or totally ignored and resentful.

Multiply this enormously for our ‘intimate’ relationships and we can see how we catch feelings from one another as though they were some kind of virus.

The reason why Daniel Goleman and Doc Childre used the term ‘emotional virus’ is that it signifies these invisible transfers.

And the reason why communication institutions like NLP (Neural Linguistic Programming) and NVC (Non-violent Communication) insist that one person cannot ‘cause’ another to suffer is that they, like many scientists in the past, somehow have a need to ignore this invisible subterranean economy of the heart.

They are more interested in us getting control over our reactions to others, and though this is not a bad idea, it does not capture the full truth of what actually happens in human consciousness as we interact with others.

 

The reality of this invisibility can be seen and has been measured by researchers who have studied mood changes through slight changes in the facial muscles, heart rhythms, and body postures.

We know that gravity exists though it is invisible.

No matter what our minds would like to think our beings are hooked up to the whole, to others, to their hearts, feelings, caring and concerns.

The more we open our heart and feeling center the more sensitive we become to the whole of which we are just a part.

Yes we have freedom to choose our internal responses to these ‘emotional tides’ that often swing wildly in our most personal and intimate relationships, yet we have little choice over the initial core feeling responses that are ‘hard wired’ into our beings.  

The very foundation of our emotional and social intelligence is seen in our beings ability to maintain our “connection” with those we care about.

This sense of connection, oneness, or union is our central concern in The Marriage of Souls.

Yet the reality of marriage and life in general is separation not oneness, and most of our emotional life reflects this.

Separation becomes more painful once oneness has been known and this is the basic reason why lovers, long term married people or best friends suffer so much when separation occurs.

The status quo of separation rules supreme on our planet and the truth is that modern man practices individualism as separation and this explains in great part why most people who get married today eventually get divorced.

Individualism has become egoism instead of something beautiful like love and the full realization of our beings.  

Being completely independent of spirit we can still merge with another and not be dependant.

Belonging to oneself and being one with another are not contradictions in terms but the ultimate test of our inner strength.

The pure heart knows no boundaries, has no sense of separation, and yet is rooted in its own individuality.

 In the next chapters we will examine this paradox between appropriate psychological separation, which recognizes the ‘special’ individuality of others, and the sense or feeling of separation that stems from egocentricity.

We can realize this feeling of oneness and yet still understand that the distinction between oneself and others needs to be maintained and preserved.

Scott Peck observed quite precisely that we always need to perceive our beloved ones as having ‘separate’ identities and that even more than this we need to “always respect and even encourage this separateness and the unique individuality of the beloved.”

  

When a person is undividable from the whole he is a true individual.

In The Marriage of Souls we have laid out pathways to pure love and have envisioned the beauty of finding our way back to the garden in which our boundaries have been permanently extended to include the worlds of others in the light of shared love.

We have been moving against the grain of the majority of spiritual and psychological wisdom that puts the development of ‘separate’ individuality in first place.

The love of which we speak is for strong individualities that are ready to scale the heights of love yet we must not forget basic psychology which recognizes that a strong identity must be established before it can be transcended.

A person who lacks a center lacks identity and without identity it is not possible to live a balanced life.

In our relationships with others we will always find some distress because we are always drifting away from love into separation until we conquer the separate aspects of our minds.

The point is that our emotions are feeding us information about what is happening in both our own inner world and simultaneously registering what is happening in others around us; how these worlds are coming together or drifting apart.

Since the heart is interested in seeking and in maintaining connection, heart centered people do not shy away from making difficult communications whose aim is healing separations as they occur.

This is actually the hardest thing to do for it directly involves sharing our vulnerabilities about how we feel in relationship to others.

Women are normally willing to invest much more energy into talking about the relationship when things go off beam.

But in reality women today get as detached from feelings as men are and it is really the partner with the most open heart that… will lead and pace such communication efforts that center around the shared emotional life.

Though maybe we can choose happiness whenever we want it is very difficult to isolate ourselves totally from the emotions of others; and on one level it is a really bad idea to separate from the reactions that others have toward us.

Yes we can develop a strong center that is “semi-independent” of what is happening around us but it is suicidal to our beings to cut off from our emotional sensitivity to what is going on around us.

(The trick here is to be able to distinguish people’s unconscious projections and judgments from their honest and appropriate heartfelt reactions to our behavior.)  

The most loving, the most open and the sweetest beings still have their flaws their resistance to love and oneness.

At the heights we fall moving in and out of oneness.

The self has its movements; we cross back and forth crying the tears of the hardening and melting heart.

When our wife or husband gets depressed or attacks us with their resentments and judgments we are going to feel something.

We have emotions and feelings to alert us to ‘changes’ and to possible threats to both our loved ones and to our own well being.

When we are really open to each other, when one end of a couple drifts into the separate space the other partner will feel this somewhere in their being.

The big problem is when a couple separates their emotional worlds and then settles into that separation as the steady state of their relationship.  

In the Marriage of Souls we join precisely for the purpose of evolving together.

But we have to constantly challenge each other’s willingness to overcome separateness in order to keep
the heart bond strong and deep.

Identification with the beautiful harmony that comes from a feeling of oneness delivers the strength
to conquer our sense of separation.

Oneness is a state of being.

Separation is the natural state of our egos.

Since we all have egos we all live and breathe inside the envelope of the mind which creates separate spaces and the end of romance is basically the walls of separation reasserting themselves in romantic lover’s consciousness.

Romance offers only a temporary door to the blissful openhearted space of oneness.

When reading this chapter we need to ask ourselves, if we are in a relationship with another, if we feel deep attunement, harmony and oneness with that person.

We need to be able to honestly feel and even rationally examine where we are on the gradient between oneness and separation.

If we are just starting a relationship we can approach the construction of bridges that lead to the creation of oneness and love in a way that understands the deeper dynamics of how our egos separate.

So even though it is not easy at all to work on the ego, because we are so identified with it, it is mandatory for real happiness.

 The radiating heart centered inside of itself ‘feels’ no separation, it is not self-conscious; it does not create barriers between things.

In reality if we are interested in what The Marriage of Souls is envisioning, a deep soul love that will stand the test of time, it is we ourselves who have to open our hearts wider for it is the one with the most open heart who will feel and be most sensitive to the state of the “shared emotional world.”

It is you who has to be sensitive to any widening gaps or conflicts that are creating separation between you and the one you love.

To leave these kinds of concerns to chance is to play Russian roulette with our family and love life.

An essential lesson from HeartHealth has to do with teaching us about the differences between our minds and heart because the mind/ego really does not understand what the heart wants and needs because separation and emotional distance is mostly what it knows.

 

In essence the state of separation is really the state of non-caring.

We don’t really care much about what we are separate from. 

No matter how closed a person is and how hard they repress and deny, we all feel.

What varies so much is how each of us responds and reacts to our own ‘feelings’ (which kinds of ‘emotions’ are generated)

Even the most rational man will react strongly with indignation when they perceive their mates doing anything that suggests rejection or abandonment.

The sadness of such men’s situation though is that the way they react often just increases the likelihood that such rejection and abandonment occurs.  

The further a couple tumbles into the distance and often coldness of separation the more confused they will get about ‘things;’ about their relationship.

From greater and greater points of separation our emotions “flood” into our awareness with greater and greater force.

The larger the sense of separation the more difficult it becomes to tell the difference between feelings and emotions, like anorexics, who can’t tell the difference between being angry, scared and hungry.

In our internal dialogues we conduct about our relationships to significant others we lose awareness of exactly what we are feeling.

From extreme points of separation comes extreme feelings and if we cannot heal the separation we will find ourselves on the highway toward separation and divorce.

We know that most strong emotions have at their root impulses to action but what is not always clear, especially in our intimate relationships, what those actions are supposed to be.  

In The Marriage of Souls we are interested in and concerned with maintaining a steady state of oneness and harmony but we have to know with all our heart and soul that this takes work and only comes automatically when passions and romantic flames are blowing hotly.

The building and maintenance of oneness takes work and care. It’s like planting a vegetable garden.

One has to pay attention to the weeds (our egos) and the insects (other people’s egos) and planning what one wants to grow.

But we normally do not approach relationships in this way so the divorce rates keep climbing.  

The more we communicate and share the less separate we feel. 

Our most intense emotions are alerting us to shifts either into or away from a point of union.

The problem is in our insensitivity to these shifts and in our ignorance to the issue itself.

There is no escaping the reality that a lack of sensitivity to the shared emotional environment has much to do with our communication abilities which includes our capacity to both communicate and receive emotional messages.

In reality the best way to begin and continue to work on our egos is through a lifetime commitment to the fires of creative communication. 

When we learn to be receptive to all signs or communications from life (the cosmic intelligence)
we learn humility and grace.

Sexuality is a great healer and connector and is one of the greatest tools we have for building and maintaining a feeling of oneness and togetherness but it is not enough and will never replace the need for the deepest levels of listening and communication in an intimate relationship.   

Without perfect communication we have to face the agonizing slow deterioration of our true heart connection, of love, sex and intimacy which all breath, live and dies in the turbulent waters of interpersonal communication.

All our heartfelt relationships begin a gradual death when we resist the heart-felt communications of our lovers and friends, or when we fail to communicate what is in on our heart, minds and souls. 

Emotionally closed people are in general not very good communicators and if we cannot communicate it is guaranteed that we will not be able to maintain any state of intimacy and oneness for long; and even the hottest of the hottest romantic fires and passions will cool down into absolute coldness.

Emotionally closed people who cannot communicate deeply just cannot understand what is going on in their relationships and trying to maintain a relationship with such a person, when we ourselves are open can be mission impossible happening everyday in our life.  

Our commitment to interpersonal communication is the art if creating real love bonds that last.

In oneness we do not feel separate and are secure in each other’s understanding, safe to express everything we are.

Our openness knows no limits.

The Marriage of Souls is the oneness and intimacy of beings connected through strong bonds of communication.

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