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Christopher Ryan: Are we
designed to be sexual omnivores?
Relationships provide the
opportunity to teach us many lessons.
Whether it's between parent-child,
friends, or even strangers, we can learn so much more about ourselves in
relation to others.
On some level, every relationship is
sacred as it holds opportunity for us to grow.
However, there's something distinct
about the intimate relationship shared by lovers.
Our partners are not defined by
genetics or familial bonds.
We're not necessarily thrown into
proximity by way of work or school environments.
We choose willingly to enter into
relationship with them.
In addition, there's the added
component of physical intimacy.
Here are five characteristics of
healthy, sacred relationships:
1. You can be yourself.
In a sacred partnership, you won't
feel the need for self-censorship.
You feel free to show the spectrum
of who you are and lose the masks often worn in society.
Even though you may still feel
self-conscious about some of your behaviors, you work through your hesitation
and often end up laughing at yourself.
In the presence of this other, you
are more accepting of the things you once tried to hide.
2. You maintain individuality.
Even though all barriers have been
removed to allow room for your significant other, you still find independence
within the relationship.
Though you share many things
together, you still have some of your own interests and pursuits.
You are not reliant on the other’s
presence to fully function or feel whole, nor would your partner expect or
demand otherwise.
Your partner supports and encourages
your individuality, as do you for them.
3. You have a mutual desire for
personal evolution.
Consciously sacred connections
always move in the direction of growth: for the partnership and for each
individual.
A desire to impede the growth of the
other for one’s comfort is a manifestation of fear.
Even when one is concerned that the
relationship may dissolve, they accept that their paths may diverge for the
benefit of both.
Evolution is put before personal
gain.
4. You “hold space” for each other.
The art of holding space for another
is rooted in love and respect.
It means listening to them
wholeheartedly and letting them know by your complete presence that they are
seen and valued.
It's not a space where you try to
fix the other person.
It's about being witness to the
totality of your beloved.
5. You're peaceful.
Life doesn’t feel blissful all of
the time, nor will any relationship.
However, the majority of time spent
together will be peaceful.
Interactions with each other will
leave each party feeling invigorated as opposed to drained.
An undercurrent of anxiety is not
desirable to either individual.
Though there may be stressful
situations (schedules, children, relatives, job demands, etc.) both parties are
committed to reinforcing their bond with minimal friction.
In conclusion, highly sacred
relationships present a number of characteristics.
These qualities can be seen in all
types of relationships, but meet specific challenges in the romantic realm.
Some
unions will last a lifetime and others are brief.
The one thing all have in common is
that they provide some of the most transformative
interactions you can experience.
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