I was chatting with a friend the
other day on being in an open relationship.
"That must be so great"
she said, "you can do anyone you want with no worry!"
The conversation then steered into
different territory, and upon returning home, I remembered what she said and
laughed.
The perceptions of people when they
view someone who is in an open relationship are highly amusing...
... because I am
here to tell you my friends...
... being in an open relationship has been and
continues to be one of the hardest personal growth experiences that I have ever had.
This isn't to say it doesn't have it
beauty spots, and I will get to that.
Being in an open relationship…
challenges you in every way.
Jealousy issues, possessive issues,
abandonment, needy, clingy, you name it.
It will bring up uncomfortable
feelings, not knowing where you fit, does he still love me, do I still have
worth in their life.
Feelings of should I be here, what
was I thinking, this hurts to much to work.
It will have you sitting out in your
car wondering if you should go in, waking up alone in bed while they are in
another room, staring off into space while they are in bed chatting.
It will make you get out of your
comfort zone, it will force you to value yourself and realize your self worth.
It will make you, instead of feeling
insecure, go see a movie by yourself.
Going out with friends, chatting,
and being awesome instead of sitting there in stagnation, wondering what they
are talking about.
It will make you value your time
with your loved one all the more.
I will say that setting a certain
time aside to spend with your partner is most important, if you don't connect
in sacred space it will eventually fall apart.
We put time and effort into where we
want to be.
It will open your heart…
… it will be the best thing that has
ever happened to you.
It will allow you to be your true
self no matter who is around, it will be supportive in ways you wouldn't
expect.
It allows freedom and requires
dedication, and clear communication.
It will push you to new adventures,
and push you be where you are unsure of the outcome.
It has you feeling out of control,
and loving life.
It will allow the unknowable to be
grasped and the love to be felt.
Let me give you some perspective.
When I see my man, in the arms of
another woman who loves him, and he loves her, it is the warmest and best
feeling I have ever felt.
When I come home from being in the
arms of another, I can tell my man everything that happened and he will want to
hear.
He will then love me even more by
massaging my feet and hands, telling me he loves me.
He will assure me against any
insecurities that I might have before I even voice them.
Open relationship isn't for
everyone.
AND I am not saying monogamy has the
easy road.
I am saying that to really grow and
change, be in a relationship that helps you do that.
The BEST relationships will
challenge the very essence of who you are.
They will make you angry, they will
make you cry with tears of joy and sorrow.
That person will be there for you
when your heart breaks, and when it floods with love for everyone.
I love my partner with all of my
heart, and he loves me with all of his.
Why not share that with others?
Being in an open relationship has
changed my life..
… I would not have it any other way.
~ Wisdom of Redd Foxit http://reddfoxit.blogspot.com
You are truly beautiful Redd... Very profound words. Thank you endlessly for sharing you. I love you. You help each of us as we share each other. Thank you. As you grow i grow with you. I learn from you and myself. I have had my own experiences with this. As im certain many of us have. You come through with even brighter light. Its very beautiful to witness. Thank you for sharing your world, sharing your Love, with me. I see you. I love you. Eternally i am blessed to call you friend. Thank you. <3
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