The Responsibility of the Romantic Relationship

As soon as the new romantic relationship begins there is huge expectation. 

You're expected to make the other happy.  You're expected to anticipate and fill the needs of the other person. 

In your grand state, due to the chemicals produced by this new attraction, you are sure you can take on this Hurculean task. 

It's paradise.  Then you become aware of some of your needs not being met. 

This is obviously just an oversight on the part of your new love interest, so you communicate your needs verbally. 

Ah, now you wait for this perfect angel to work their magic and make you and your life whole and complete.

Oh, but did I hear your new saintly entity mention that, "since you brought it up", there are a few things YOU have "overlooked" as well.

Huh?  What?  Could it be that the very person in charge of making you happy could make you UNHAPPY with criticism?

Don't they have this all backwards? 

If they would just get with the program and get busy making you happy again, you would be able to fill all their needs with your sunshiny self! 

Now are you hearing them correctly as they are repeating back to you these very same words? 

How could they possibly say they are thinking and feeling the same way? 

Now enters the doubt.  Maybe, they are not "the one" after all!

How could they have "pretended" to be?  They have tricked you!  It's all their fault! 

Someone has to take the blame and it's certainly not sweet, loving, innocent you!

How could anyone blame an endorphin filled love machine who just got shot down out of a cloud of trust in what was supposed to be their angel coming to rescue them?

They must be an imposter!  A trickster!  How dare they be human after all the hopes and dreams you pinned on them!  

What?  They are calling YOU the phony?  Hmmm....

A mirror of each other, you shake your heads and walk “or huff” away in frantic search of your "real twin flame".

Just wait till they hear about this!

And........, yes........., you will find them.

And guess what?

They will have an identical story to tell you regarding the last trickster they encountered.

You will both revel in the fact that you have FINALLY found your "one true love".

Until...   Oh, no, obviously just an oversight...  Soooo,  you communicate your needs verbally...

and start this needy process all over again.