Sex that is nourished by love is an
alchemical phenomenon.
This is why it creates life.
Over the past two weeks, I have
heard the saying again and again “be like water”.
It has followed me around. It
has caused me to think about water itself as an element.
Water, is the combination of
hydrogen and oxygen.
As the two kiss, a third element is
made, an element, which sustains all life.
The thirst of all beings on this
earth is satiated by it and sustained by it. Their life depends on
it.
That got me to thinking that love,
is like water.
Like oxygen and hydrogen, the
unification of two hearts, makes a third element… Love.
Love, like water sustains all
life.
The thirst of all beings on this
earth is satiated by it and sustained by it.
And like water, their life depends
on it.
I had a full day of one on one
therapy sessions with my clients yesterday.
And the overwhelming theme of the
day was sex.
Client after client came to me with
a slightly different version of the same story.
That story is that somewhere over
the course of their lives, the idea of sex had been corrupted by their parents
or by society at large into something that is laced in shame, misunderstanding
and confusion.
Now, in their relationships, they
suffer.
The gift of the pure, unobstructed
alignment that sex is, though offered, is not recognized as a result of all of
the damaging thoughts that they hold about sex.
It is painful to me that people
have corrupted and tried to control perhaps the purest expression of unity we
experience in our physical lives.
But it makes sense doesn’t
it?
If those who seek to control others
and make them powerless ultimately live by the creed “divide and conquer,
because together they are strong”, it would make perfect sense to disrupt an
act of pure unity.
It makes sense to make it into an
offense, unless it is being used to propagate life… create more people to
ultimately control and use to your own devices.
Religion is… as usual… at the front
and center of this corruption.
Religion was designed not as an
expression of God’s voice, but as an expression of man’s voice.
It is nothing more than spiritual
truth laced with justification upon justification for one person’s or many
people’s self centered desires to dictate how other people should and shouldn’t
behave.
They reflect societal beliefs that
were in practice thousands upon thousands of years ago, in a day and age where
it was common practice to stone people to death.
I will use the bible for an
example, which is only one of many outdated religious texts.
If we were to adhere to the bible
exactly, we could not play football without committing a sin before god… Tim
Tebow gasps in shock.
Traditional footballs are made of
pigskin.
Leviticus 11:8, when discussing
pigs states “You shall not eat of their flesh or touch their carcasses; they
are unclean to you”.
You could not wear polyester or any
other fabric that is a blend of two materials.
Leviticus 19:19 reads: “You are to
keep my statutes.
You shall not breed together two
kinds of cattle; you shall not sow your field with two kinds of seed, nor wear
a garment upon you of two kinds of seed, nor wear a garment upon you of two
kinds of material mixed together.”
You could not get a divorce.
Mark 10:11-12 states “And he has said to them, ‘whoever divorces his wife and
marries another woman, commits adultery against her; and if she herself
divorces her husband and marries another man, she is committing adultery’.”
Add to that Deuteronomy 22:22 “if a
man is found lying with the wife of another man, both of them shall die, the
man who lay with the woman, and the woman.
So you shall purge the evil from
Israel.” I find it an absolute travesty that we choose to keep so many of
the archaic and damaging beliefs alive that are offered by the very same
ancient texts that so obviously state rules that are ludicrous to us based on
our modern understanding.
We have kept so many of the beliefs
about sex alive that were offered by the same people who think that it’s good
and fair justice to stone their wives to death.
Think about that for a minute.
We are threatened by our sexual
feelings and by our sexual natures and so, we shame our children when they are
coming into their age of sexual curiosity.
It is as simple as saying “no-no”
when they are exploring their sexual organs at age 3.
We set them up to believe that
there is something unnatural about part of their body, something frightening
and unacceptable about their sexuality.
We build them a solid foundation of
sexual dysfunction before they have ever had feelings towards another boy or
girl.
And then we wonder why sex has
become such a source of pain in the world.
We wonder why rape and sexual abuse
is rampant.
We wonder why porn addiction is
everywhere and we wonder why we can’t orgasm with our partners.
Is it really a wonder?
For years, I have been shamed for
my sexual energy.
This is a problem, because it is
part of who I am. I leak it out of my every pore.
Over the course of my life, I have
been told that it is evidence of my impurity and evil and that it is my fault
that men have hurt me in the past because my sexual energy “eggs them on and
invites them to attack me”.
I could not switch it off because it is part of my essence.
I turned against myself. I
hated the way I looked.
I hated the way I moved. I
hated myself for what I was.
Because I could not change it, I
just figured those were just the cards I had been dealt.
I was designed to suffer at the
hands of men and to be hated by women.
I could not cover my sexuality up, I could not tone myself down and so
I allowed myself to slip to the dark side.
I became a lingerie/nude model and
figured, “fine, if this is what I am, then this is what I am… Let them use me
and let them hate me”.
But over the course of my healing
process since then, I have learned some things that I want to share with you
today.
Sexuality is at
the core of everyone’s essence.
The only thing that sets us apart
is that some people suppress it and some people express it.
It is at the core of everyone’s
essence because oneness is at the core of everyone’s essence.
Inherently, we all possess the same
desire to find unity, not only in and of ourselves, but also in and of each
other.
Sexuality is not evidence of our
evil. It is evidence of our inherent goodness.
It is evidence of the purity of our
desire for harmony and for love.
And to tell a woman that her sexual
energy “invites and instigates rape”, there is nothing more to say except… Are
you fucking kidding me?
We cannot condemn sexuality without
condemning ourselves at our deepest, most intangible levels.
We cannot condemn sex without
waging war with ourselves and with each other.
We cannot condemn sex and ever hope
for sex to become a healthy, healing part of our society.
If we condemn sex, we are
condemning our most sacred spiritual act to the dark and often sadistic world
that exists behind the curtain of the “18 and older” signs we post on the
wall.
All we will know is the temporary
adrenaline high of mutual masturbation.
Our souls will forget how to touch
one another through the unification of our bodies.
Every person on earth deserves to
know the rapture of sex that is fueled by love.
Every person on earth deserves for
love to open him or her to a world where no boundaries exist; to the act of sex
in it’s most exalted form.
It is possible to find
enlightenment through sex, because the very nature of sex dissolves the ego.
The ego cannot exist in it’s
light.
You cannot tell the difference
between yourself and your lover.
Death means nothing to the man or
woman who lives in a state of love and love’s various natural expressions.
Love is the universal language.
All beings in existence understand
it.
And sex, is the body’s response to that
understanding.
We are compelled to combine
ourselves with one another.
We are compelled to touch eternity
through one another through sex.
What a sweet taste it is, when in
every inch of your lover’s body and in every glance that passes between you,
genesis is spun.
How sweet it is to
allow yourself to open up to the degree that you can feel the earth rotate
beneath you, when the whole of existence has stopped and the present moment is
the only moment.
Their skin in a pervasive slide
over yours, learning the notes to a melody of flesh, hunting the
nectar that is lying beneath the surface of your ability to control…
… your bodies arcing into one another… desiring to conceive of the feeling of union…
… writhing to the pulse of two unified heartbeats.
You are not even two people
anymore.
You are one.
