Here
come the natural leaders, guides, and teachers in life.
You
are bright, clever, and expert at problem solving and lead with great vision
and an imaginative approach to resolving issues and overcoming all manner of
obstacles.
You
cope. You solve. You advise.
Your
research and homework are meticulous; you are determined to get to the bottom
of things.
No
one could seem more thorough or dependable than you.
Indeed,
there is a discipline to your leadership.
But
you are the swan whose appearance impresses everyone.
What
they don't see is the furious paddling beneath the surface and the concealed
insecurities that you would hate anyone to discover.
I
suspect that if I asked you to describe who you actually were, that would
constitute the one conundrum you couldn't solve.
Indeed,
I can almost see you shifting to the back foot, ready to deflect such a
searching probe, which is typical of 5/1s: great at looking outward, but not so
keen on looking inward.
You
are highly capable performers, but you're prone to building a world of barriers
and deflectors.
No
wonder there is something unrecognizable about you.
I'd
even argue that some of the closest people in your life don't really know who
you are, yet remain captivated by the great dreams you paint onto a projection
screen, portraying the person you want them to believe you are… or sometimes the person you believe
you are!
You
tend to project an image and live by it, reluctant to show too much of your
real self.
This
has the effect of creating an image that fits the observer's perception… an
image you're happy to bask in because you put yourself out there as the one
with the “know how”.
Those
who are charmed by you can place you in positions of great trust,
responsibility, or influence, but you need to be clear that who you lead and
what you teach are in accord with what resonates in you, not them.
Otherwise,
it is easy for you to assume roles that don't serve your interests.
The
truth is that you derive self worth from work, and work alone.
That
provides you with a sure foundation in life.
Outside
this, personal interactions can feel vague, uncertain, and perhaps even
awkward.
And
so the same old pattern emerges: you conjure an image that deflects and
projects.
Some
people could accuse you of being a subtle manipulator; I would argue it's more
the concealment of something vulnerable, because your manipulation is all about
self-preservation.
5/1s
tend to be accomplished, wise, and effective people in many ways but live with
a nagging insecurity that the foundations to their world are never quite strong
enough.
Most
5/1s would deny such insecurity exists, but that's because it's an unconscious
element they'd rather not explore.
I
suspect only one or two people will ever get to see the real you… and only
after you have spent hours internalizing about whether they are substantial
enough to be "let in."
If we were in conversation, you would
come across as interesting, sharp, intelligent, and incisive.
I'm sure you'd talk a lot about work and
impart knowledge you'd hope would impress me.
Yet I'd be deciphering the shifting
stance, fidgeting hands, and uncertain stare.
Later, I'd find you edging around the
room, working out whom it was best to interact with and then soaking up their
problems and solving them.
There is something of the rescuer about
you.
I've often observed 5/1s holding a
captive audience in the palm of their hand, providing a vision of how life
should be.
What if the world were ever to see
through your defensive projection field?
That is your greatest fear, but
ultimately it would be no bad thing -it would free you to be yourself.
If you had lived in integrity, your reputation
would withstand the exposure.
If you had merely found shaky ground in
the projections of others, you would feel rudderless.
Either way, you would come to realize
that reaching out, being authentic, and setting boundaries were your only
liberation and path to fulfillment.
Relationships
with a 5/1 As
with all fifth line profiles, it is hard to get really close to a 5/1 once you
are past the alluring image.
But
5/1s can be the most supportive of individuals as long as things are going
their way.
They
are great problem solvers in relationships, albeit on a practical rather than
emotional level.
They
can easily slip into the role of teacher, counselor, or rescuer, which may induce
a level of co-dependency.
You'll
most likely hear them telling you how dependable they are and how much you need
them in your life.
The
truth is that they need you just as much.
5/1s
are tremendously effective when guiding or teaching their followers in a
professional sense but have a tendency to be wary within one on one and more
intimate interactions.
Partners
note this more than it is readily admitted!
Should
you ever become needy or insecure, be prepared for big promises and great
romantic visions.
Hollywood
movies have been based on fifth-line portrayals of how relationships should be.
5/1s
will also have the expectation that you will fall in and follow their lead.
Your
challenge is to discern the relationship's substance, because a 5/1 never will!
Once
terms of engagement are agreed, be wary of making projections onto 5/1s,
feeding their illusions.
Keep
them grounded, keep popping their balloons, and keep the reality checks coming.
If
you don't engage on a deep level, you can both end up bouncing around a supportive
but false relationship.
But
when something feels real, it can be the most enduring and fulfilling union.
Compatibility: Your ideal match is with
other 5/1s and 2/4 profiles.
Away from that synergy, you also find
easy relations with 1/3, 2/5, and 3/5 profiles.
~
Chetan Parkyn - Human Design: Discover the Person You Were Born to Be.
I felt completely uneasy reading this.... 🏃
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